The Difference Between Intuitive Reading And Fortune Telling

I am sometimes asked “do you say bad things in a reading”? Sometimes I have to talk about difficult things like loss or hardship so in that sense, yes. Some people are under the assumption that readers have restrictions. Although many of the readers that I know (myself included) do have ethical boundaries, not all do. There are no enforced guidelines for readers as far as I know.

In my practice though there is a standard that I follow, what I receive is always information that can be used constructively. I don’t leave people in worse shape than I found them. At the same time I might not always say what a person wants to hear. Sometimes people say “you never said anything about trips”. To which I sometimes have to say that didn’t seem to be an issue, I then ask “why are you planning one”? and often the answer is no.

I remember when I was beginning my career and working in an establishment where there were other readers it was suggested that we follow a certain format of what people wanted to hear, trips, romance, lucky numbers etc. I asked “but what if that is not the reality of things”, and got a blank stare.

So now if asked about something like that, I try to respond to what is blocking the person, maybe they look after others so much there is never time for a trip. Maybe they need to set up a savings account for travel, maybe they need to go on a trip whether or not a stick in the mud in their life wants them to stay home or not.

This comes back to a basic difference between fortune telling and reading. Fortune telling is usually about things that may (or may not) happen in the future, usually with little grounding in the here and now. The “you will meet a tall, dark, handsome stranger who will take you to an island etc.”. A reading is usually based more in the here and now and talks about the probable outcome of things that we are consciously and unconsciously setting in motion. A reading would approach the issue with something more like; “there seems to be an imbalance, you’re working a great deal and have been operating in the same circles, maybe you need to expand your horizons”. The reading could point to something such as an opportunity in the year ahead to re-connect with people and sometimes more specifically like;  “in the west, I’m getting associations this side of mountains, not a big city, more like Lethbridge, two homes close together, one a very new household that someone will be proud to show you”, and further  “this trip could be an opportunity to re-connect not only with people but also with a part of your life that hasn’t been explored in a long time”. So the issue isn’t JUST the trip but what it indicates constructively that the person can actually work with. Readings and Tarot, as far as I work with them are not just circumstantial weather reports but tie in more to how we are evolving.

Fortune telling in it’s healthiest aspect is entertaining and escapist, there are some who approach it that way and that’s fine. A reading can also be approached in an entertaining lighter way. Sometimes people are just coming from a place of curiosity, food for thought or diversion. I’m fine with that too.

Different tools also work well with different types of intuitive work. I’ve experienced profound as well as entertaining things from tea reading (which, when done well, is a beautiful art). Tarot can be utilised in many different ways too. Generally when I have had to do shorter readings, such as in restaurants, fairs or still occasionally for charity drives. I work in that lighter way. I sometimes use humor in how the information is conveyed. Above all a reading should be INTERESTING. It is a personal service where the client is the focal point. the type of work I do is relevant to the person being read.

In that same vein, questions about other people are somewhat limited. I cannot, for instance, pick up on what your ex from 4 years ago, that you haven’t heard from, thinks of you. I can, however, help with what you might be needing to resolve. A reading could say; “you seem to have some resolution going on with someone who factored in your life from a chapter of about 4 years ago. There’s an opportunity to see differing values and to see what you have outgrown”.

Tarot is also subjective, what could be a knight of cups to one person might be an entirely different aspect to another. A reading can warn about difficulties like abuse, issues around addiction or other pitfalls. It cannot diagnose or judge. I am not about to say something is good or bad in itself but I can say this doesn’t seem to be a healthy situation.

One of the premises of Tarot is the “law of attraction”. This works along with the idea that there is a connection running through our life experiences. Attraction is not the same as retribution. No one deserves to be in an abusive relationship. We can look though at our issues of self worth where we seem to be attracting negativity. This is also a major difference between fortune telling which places an emphasis on luck or curses and reading which (hopefully) will talk instead about what is in our power to change.

in the sense of discussing difficult things, I also have to be diplomatic in addressing the client’s issues. A person having difficulty with work, for instance. Might be carrying a lack of respect for a boss they feel is incompetent or there may be a serious lack of admiration to their colleagues. Sometimes the answer is looking for another opportunity in that work environment, changing fields OR it may be that they have to make a change in their attitude. Working intuitively as well as with the cards often helps a good reader to point out what is in our realm to change and what isn’t.

Sadly I sometimes encounter people who don’t want to look at their stuff. Over the years I have encountered numerous parents who think an in law has done some form of voodoo that their married adult kids don’t want to talk to them rather than look at their own state and demeanor in dealing with others. People like that will go for readings, making the rounds regularly, spend inordinate amounts of money until they hear what they want to hear somewhere.I try in a situation like that to steer the person to things that can ease the relationship. Are they doing things to be happy even if they have this difficult person in their life? Can they enjoy the positive aspects like other people in the environment? Often in this particular situation there are different cultural values that have to be met halfway and given a little credit when others try. Sometimes a reading can also help us identify what is NOT our stuff. Sometimes, like in the previous example, the other person IS in the wrong, so how do we behave in these circumstances? I know of one such person who got involved with others in the same boat, became supportive of them and found their life somewhat happier through the compassion that came from that. After a while, by not dwelling on the difficult person they found their overall relationship with family improved, because they had changed their relationship with themselves.

In the end a reading gives us some alternatives and choices, as well as some feedback, maybe a different outlook on our circumstances as well as insight to how we are evolving. One of the reasons I love my job is when people come back happier, not just because of luck or good weather, but because they have grown.

My Practice/Standards In Psychic Intuitive Tarot Reading

Frank Morgan in the movie "The Wizard Of Oz"

The Picture at left of course is the wonderful Frank Morgan in “The Wizard Of Oz”. A humbug with a heart of gold. There are a lot of different kinds of readers out there and, like in any profession, there are good ones, bad ones and there are a lot of people who want to paint us all with the same brush. Through my own work (as well as sharing with colleagues and people I respect in various professions) I have come to establish my own guidelines in professional psychic intuitive Tarot reading.

These standards have evolved over the years, as well as my own professional boundaries and areas of specialization. I always point out that intuitive or psychic reading is very individual in it’s expression and practice and readers usually develop their own style (and reputation) over time.

My reading sessions are generally a half hour in length. I have done fairs and parties (and still do occasionally) and particularly when I read in restaurants the format was quite a bit shorter ( I sometimes had as many as 30 people waiting). When I established my independent practice on an appointment basis, I moved into a longer format and found that I was usually able to cover pertinent information and provide insight quite comfortably within the half hour, also allowing time near the end for the client to ask questions verbally.

With the exception of reading for friends (which is different), I like to go into a reading knowing very little about the person. I don’t like to be led by obvious cues or clues. At the same time part of what I do does involve paying attention to and being sensitive to the state the person is in, this has more to do with the delivery of information than to the information itself.

The reading room is a relaxing environment and can comfortably accommodate myself and up to 4 other people at a time. Many people prefer to come individually or in pairs as reading is, for the most part, an intimate experience. I allow people to bring in a friend and sometimes small groups like to sit in on one an other’s readings. I’m fine with that.

I will allow people to use a recording device of their choice, recordings are for personal/private use.

I begin by explaining how I would like the person to shuffle the deck – always holding the cards over the table and face down – (a lot of people don’t handle cards much these days). While shuffling I ask the person to reflect, silently of course, on any important issues they may have or to reflect as if a good friend asked them how they are doing. After shuffling I have them cut the cards and I begin to read.

The psychic intuitive Tarot reading itself can vary. Generally I am working with a combination of what I receive intuitively ( I get very strong impressions of both the external circumstances of the person as well as the lessons they are moving through internally) and also the interpretation of the cards themselves.
Sample picture of some of the Tarot cards in the Rider Waite TarotI work with either a Rider/Waite deck – as seen in this sample (click on it for a larger view), or a variant there-of. I like the Aquarian tarot as an alternative, but it’s usually the Rider. I have evolved my own version of the traditional Celtic Cross spread, which I will post about in the future. I tend to pay a lot of attention to card combinations and the predominance of symbols, numbers and elements. Usually there is a theme or lesson that is revealed running through the various areas of a person’s life (i.e. relationships, work, security and conflicts).

Toward the last part of the session I allow for questions to be asked verbally. I prefer this towards the end as questions are often rather leading and I should have established a connection before this point as to not be as biased.

I don’t recommend a person having readings too often, for most it is a yearly thing, or they may come around a specific issue then come for a follow up a few months after, but I NEVER encourage dependency on what I do. It is meant to be food for thought and an adjunct to a person’s own good judgement.

For some it is entertainment and I am OK with that. Sometimes it IS entertaining, but I take what I do seriously at the same time. I do have a psychic / intuitive gift that I have to use responsibly and also a strong ability to empathise and understand which the work itself has strengthened. Communication skills and a sense of humor help too. Apart from that I do not see myself as being that much different from most people and don’t purport to be, (other than the quirks everyone does have and I must admit I have a few).

I don’t read for people under 18. I also will decline a reading if I feel the person is not in a responsible state to receive what I offer objectively. To me reading is a form of perception that should be received with an open mind even a bit of friendly skepticism, blind faith is as bad as, if not worse than, vehement cynicism.

In the cases of people going through major issues or crisis (i.e. abusive relationships, psychological problems, loss or trauma, addiction issues) I may spend some of the time suggesting a referral to an appropriate resource. Sometimes in these instances I will say that it might not be the time for a reading, depending on the circumstances. I reserve the right to refuse service if I don’t feel it is an appropriate situation.

I am not qualified to diagnose health issues and have not tried to develop my perception along those lines. I refer that to a person’s doctor or an appropriate practitioner. I will discuss well being and the messages a person may be getting from their body.

I can get very strong impressions about people in the person’s life or that may be coming into the picture, but I cant, for instance, give someone information on an ex they broke up with two years ago if that person is not relevant to their life anymore.

I don’t classify myself as a medium. I have had some senses about people who have passed on but more often in terms of what the living carry from that connection. I do sometimes sense presences or trace energies in environments or around people and I have had some very strong personal experiences (and also people close to me have), but I work cautiously in this on professional ground as it is not what I see as my specialization (at least at this time).

Reading is an on-going learning experience. I have to approach each day and each client with a willingness to learn in the doing. Most of the time I love my job.

Disclaimer 

Psychic readings can be many things to many people. We all have our own gifts and our own unique expression.  I offer what I do as an art form of inspiring entertainment. Readings cannot take the place of your own judgement.

I am not an authority on medical, legal, psychological or financial matters. Concerns in these areas should be directed to appropriate resources. You are ultimately responsible for your life and decisions. You must be 18 years of age to have a reading. I reserve the right to refuse service if I feel this to be an unsafe or unsuitable resource.

As a form of art, my kind of reading should be something that speaks to you, providing relevant information that encourages and inspires. As a story teller I share experience and as a perceptive intuitive psychic I hope I can be of service.