I am sometimes asked “do you say bad things in a reading”? Sometimes I have to talk about difficult things like loss or hardship so in that sense, yes. Some people are under the assumption that readers have restrictions. Although many of the readers that I know (myself included) do have ethical boundaries, not all do. There are no enforced guidelines for readers as far as I know.
In my practice though there is a standard that I follow, what I receive is always information that can be used constructively. I don’t leave people in worse shape than I found them. At the same time I might not always say what a person wants to hear. Sometimes people say “you never said anything about trips”. To which I sometimes have to say that didn’t seem to be an issue, I then ask “why are you planning one”? and often the answer is no.
I remember when I was beginning my career and working in an establishment where there were other readers it was suggested that we follow a certain format of what people wanted to hear, trips, romance, lucky numbers etc. I asked “but what if that is not the reality of things”, and got a blank stare.
So now if asked about something like that, I try to respond to what is blocking the person, maybe they look after others so much there is never time for a trip. Maybe they need to set up a savings account for travel, maybe they need to go on a trip whether or not a stick in the mud in their life wants them to stay home or not.
In that same vein, questions about other people are somewhat limited. I cannot, for instance, pick up on what your ex from 4 years ago, that you haven’t heard from, thinks of you. I can, however, help with what you might be needing to resolve. A reading could say; “you seem to have some resolution going on with someone who factored in your life from a chapter of about 4 years ago. There’s an opportunity to see differing values and to see what you have outgrown”.
Sadly I sometimes encounter people who don’t want to look at their stuff. Over the years I have encountered numerous parents who think an in law has done some form of voodoo that their married adult kids don’t want to talk to them rather than look at their own state and demeanor in dealing with others. People like that will go for readings, making the rounds regularly, spend inordinate amounts of money until they hear what they want to hear somewhere.I try in a situation like that to steer the person to things that can ease the relationship. Are they doing things to be happy even if they have this difficult person in their life? Can they enjoy the positive aspects like other people in the environment? Often in this particular situation there are different cultural values that have to be met halfway and given a little credit when others try. Sometimes a reading can also help us identify what is NOT our stuff. Sometimes, like in the previous example, the other person IS in the wrong, so how do we behave in these circumstances? I know of one such person who got involved with others in the same boat, became supportive of them and found their life somewhat happier through the compassion that came from that. After a while, by not dwelling on the difficult person they found their overall relationship with family improved, because they had changed their relationship with themselves.